OOTD ~ I met up with the fashion savvy blogger Jennifer, who writes A Well Styled Life

OOTD 

Jeans ~ Eileen Fisher

Top ~ Saint James

Ballet Flats ~ Josef Seibel

A messy updo

diamond studs and necklace

pearl earrings

a fresh manicure

Kimono Crimson by Pacifica

Meet

Jennifer Connolly

We had tea and a chat at Murchies.

She is on vacation and was in Victoria for a few days.

You probably already know

Jennifer who writes the blog A Well Styled Life.

We have known each other since 2007.

 This is the first time that we have met in person.

Jennifer is a gracious and fashion savvy woman with a winning smile.

We had a lovely time sipping our tea and chatting.

It felt fabulous to finally meet her in person.

Her series "Dressing room Diaries" is one of my favourites on her blog.

I told her how she has influenced me over the years.

For example...

 I recently purchased a new crisp white shirt 

after reading her post on classic white shirts!

Meeting Jennifer was truly wonderful.

I hope to meet up with her again...

Making connections with other like minded women 

unites, empowers and inspires us.

Thank you for popping by The Humble Bungalow Blog.

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~

Dreams and Women...

Have you travelled to France?

If not, are you dreaming of a trip?

Can you visualize yourself walking along the Seine,
or sitting outside a cafe sipping a cafe creme?

Wandering along the cobblestones streets...
lighting a candle in a church
perusing the shops.

Travelling was personal dream of mine for years.

I read numerous books on Paris and France...
they whet my appetite and I thought it may be possible
"where there is a will there is a way"
so I took French language classes,
saved money
then the year I turned 60 I went...
It was the trip of a lifetime.

Keeping the feeling of France alive...
I continue reading books set in France,
saving money and am dreaming again of French countryside and Paris.

Today on International Women's Day...we honour women.

Sharon Santoni is a great example of an industrious, creative, and energetic woman.
Sharon continues to reinvent and challenge herself,
she is an inspiration for those of us who have yet to fulfill all their dreams.

My Stylish French Box was created by Sharon...
You may be familiar with her beautiful books or the lovely blog she writes
about her life in the countryside surrounding her gorgeous home in Normandy.

Recently she also launched her online magazine...

The February box theme was The Parisian woman...

The velvet pouchette features a photo taken in Paris by Sharon.

The beret is made of soft thick wool...

the red lip gloss is ultra moisturizing and perfect for everyday wear.

I love the wee pop of red atop the beret.

Some quotes to ponder and inspire on International Women's Day. 

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt ~

        "The education and empowerment of women throughout the world 
                      cannot fail to result in a more caring, tolerant, 
                                    just and peaceful life for all."    

                                             ~ Aung San Suu Kyi ~

              "There is no limit to what we, as women, can accomplish."

                                              ~ Michelle Obama ~

"I think the best role models for women are people who are fruitfully and                 confidently themselves, who bring light into the world."

                                                  ~ Meryl Streep ~

             “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” 
                                         ~ Eleanor Roosevelt ~

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~

I've got the blues....

Blue porcelain pottery

Tumbling bunnies

lilting lyrics

Artist and porcelain maker Harumi Ota gave local artist Robert Amos lessons.

 Robert has created a whimsical line of vessels.

This one was a gift from our darling daughter Jennifer.

The two bowls shown here are by Harumi Ota.

I have had them several years.

For those of you reading this post who may be local 

they were purchased from a local gallery in Oak Bay called Eclectic.

 Harumi Ota frequently sells his work at The Moss Street Market on Saturdays.

Here's my new swimsuit...

also blue and white.

Finding a "flattering" suit was quite a challenge.

First off there was a limited selection in my price range

and 

coming to grips with my ample figure "weighed heavily"

I wanted decent support and good coverage...

needing to camouflage the "wobbly bits" as much as possible.

I ended up at a bathing suit specialty shop...

where they have many sizes and styles and expert fitters.

While in the change rooms I overheard many women's conversations 

 ALL of which were lamenting that they were FAT!

They were mostly young women and teenagers...

I was the eldest by far!

We are sensitive and critical of our bodies...

not everyone can be the same size or shape

we all have "problem areas"

no one is perfect.

 I am overweight

I know that I should slim down and get back to my WW goal weight.

 I have a serious conversation with myself about this regularly...

and its not really working.

I eat healthy

I try not to indulge in chocolates or sweets.

I walk every day and swim once a week.

I look around at the pool and there are women of all shapes and sizes.

There are some who would be considered morbidly obese 

in swimsuits much bigger than mine 

participating in the Aqua Fit classes...

How do they feel in their own skin?

Do we all have negative thoughts about our body image?

Is this a healthy way of thinking?

Here's my healthy lunch.

I AM going to try harder, starting right now, 

TODAY!

How about you?

Are you struggling to lose weight?

How do you feel about your body image?

Have you been swimsuit shopping lately?

Are you shocked by the swimsuit prices?

(many that I looked at were over $200)

Its a lovely sunny day and I am heading out for my second walk.

Thank you for reading my humble blog and I'd love to hear your thoughts on this issue.

Hope you have a fabulous weekend!

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~

Thoughts on women...

Living in a 1913 heritage home has taught me a lot about acceptance.

The Humble Bungalow is over 100 years old

full of flaws and imperfections 

which 

we could amend and improve 

we have not.

One thing I regret in our efforts to improve the kitchen

 is that the floor re finishers sanded

the dipped worn area in front of the kitchen sink 

this is where several generations of women stood doing dishes...

I specifically asked them to leave it and work around it 

but that afternoon many years ago 

I came home from work only to discover a level freshly sanded floor

and felt sad...

I remember brewing a pot of tea and staring at that spot.

I may have even wept...I cannot say for sure, as it was so long ago.

I had to accept that change but I have never forgotten that worn out spot.

where bone weary women would have stood

looking out the same window

at the mighty oaks 

growing and stately standing 

on the rocks 

above The Humble Bungalow.

Our home has a history of women who were widowed 

were the major bread earners and were responsible 

to tend to the children and keep the home fires burning.

Wearing many hats must have been a challenge back in the 1930's and 40's...

perhaps even in the 1950's 

when many women "stayed at home" 

 life and times were simpler.

Staying at home was not a "free ride"...

the days were filled with hard work.

Women

mothers, grandmothers, daughters

whose job it was to keep the homes running

the family needed to be fed 

the soiled clothes washed

the house cleaned

 the garden planted and tilled.

Today 

I am thinking about, and honouring,

 these women 

who worked diligently and toiled even when fatigued

the same women who raised and  nurtured the children 

in this home 

over a hundred years before us...

 Women have influenced society 

while tending their homes and nurturing their children

taken a stand against and fought injustices

spoken out 

marched when there were issues that they felt strongly about

wrote letters 

fund raised

baked

got dressed up

put lipstick on

smiled in the face of adversity

and

made our world

a better place.

Any time women come together with a collective intention, it's a powerful thing. Whether it's sitting down making a quilt, in a kitchen preparing a meal, in a club reading the same book, or around the table playing cards, or planning a birthday party, when women come together with a collective intention, magic happens.  

~ Phylicia Rashad ~

In the light of recent political changes

women are rising up again...

we have a voice

let us unite and not be silent

nor complacent

harness the collective power

speak up and if need be, rally

if only for

the future of our children and grandchildren

 consider the possibilities

the risks

assess

and

act.

I raise up my voice—not so I can shout, 

but so that those without a voice can be heard...

we cannot succeed when half of us are held back.

~ Malala Yousafzai ~

I am not sure what will happen next...

We will do whatever needs to be done.

In the year of the rooster...

expect change

Rooster is almost the epitome of fidelity and punctuality. For ancestors who had no alarm clocks, the crowing was significant, as it could awaken people to get up and start to work. In Chinese culture, another symbolic meaning of chicken carries is exorcising evil spirits.

source

As you know my blog is not political...

these are just a few personal thoughts and observations

that have been percolating 

and 

I felt the need to write them down...

Please be kind and respect others...

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~

Wellness Journal...recollections from the dark moving towards a brighter future.

Have you ever kept a journal?

When I was going through a rough patch in early menopause I wrote in a gratitude journal and found it very helpful and soothing. Making note of 5 things everyday that I was grateful for was a positive attitude shift. This simple exercise was surprisingly very motivating and ultimately incredibly empowering.

Back then, my weight was "out of control" my self esteem was at rock bottom.
I had hit a wall...and felt overwhelmed and powerless.

When I was in the thick of it,
I had NO CLUE whatsoever why I was feeling this way.

Looking back, I now realize what was happening to my body and why my emotions were all over the map.
Menopause can cause so many ups and downs and unfortunately it does not come with a guide book to help us navigate this path.

I was not in tune to my own body.
I was giving so much time and energy to others who needed my help,
that I neglected to take care and do what was needed
in order to stay balanced, happy and healthy.

The tell tale symptoms were there...
low energy
stress
sleep disruptions resulting in fatigue
mood swings
mind fogs
food cravings that resulted in binge eating loads of carbs and chocolate

"Oh Woe is Me!" felt like my mantra.
I'm not proud of this period of my life but it must have happened for a reason.
This experience taught me a lot of valuable lessons...
it taught me how to establish boundaries and I had to learn to say no.
Very difficult for someone who was raised to give before receiving.

Shifting my focus from obsessing over my symptoms,
I took charge...
reading books on menopause, fitness, healthy foods and meditation.
It was hard work, took time, but I needed to do something to turn things around.
Acceptance and action was much more attractive over self loathing and self medicating.

So back to the journal...
it was a powerful tool in my journey back to wellness.

The journal was instrumental in instigating change.
So I am reinstating my habit and am starting a new journal.
It will be wellness and fitness focused and I will write in it every day.

Documenting my weight, walks, workouts, weight watcher points
and making notes of any emotions that may be contributing factors that threaten to derail my success and giving myself a written pat on the back when I succeed.


BTW ~ The kettle bells are an amazing workout and I am devoting 30 minutes every other day to this new routine, while still trying to walk everyday.

Will you join me on this road to wellness?

All you need is a

pen and some paper...

let's make our journals a beautiful and gentle record of our continued journey to better health.

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~

The "battle of the bulge"...a group effort.

"Women of a certain age" frequently find themselves at a crossroads when it comes to their changing figures.

Many of my over 60 friends have been commiserating about their thicker mid sections and those persnickety "wobbly bits." Several of my friends who work out regularly at the gym have complained about their "muffin tops" and "back fat."

It would appear that these areas become problematic as we advance in age...

Our bodies change...
we must graciously accept these changes and press on.

Making the best of what we have
accepting our limitations
working at maintaining our health
mindful of the foods that we eat to fuel our bodies
enjoying meals that are attractive, colourful and full of nutritious elements.
I guess what I am trying to say is that we need to opt for a happy balance.

While we are focusing on slimming down...
we might need to reassess our clothing choices.

Dressing in flattering clothes definitely makes us feel better about ourselves.

Consider looking at "camouflage dressing" to disguise our figure flaws.
We may wear a bright scarf at the neck to draw the eye upward...
or wear the same colour separates on both the top and bottom for a longer line.

It is important to choose clothing that is not too sheer, too tight and does not cling. Opting for heavier fabrics with more "body."

I prefer denim, bamboo and crisp cottons and linens in styles that follow the curves of my figure but are not too tight or too baggy.

Light cottons, sheer knits and some silks are not that forgiving as they tend to be on the clingy side
Make sure to buy the size that fits and flatters...
ignore the tag...
if you get all hung up on whether you think that you should be wearing a certain size you might be choosing a garment that is going to reveal more of those wobbly bits than you would like.
Check in the mirror...and do not forget to look at the front and the back views.

We cannot expect that our bodies will stay the same as they were when we were in our youth and we need to gracefully embrace the changes that come with age...

Keeping active is important for many reasons...
maintaining flexibility
bone density and heart health,
lower blood pressure and warding off adult onset diabetes.

Weight gain is inevitable when our metabolism slows if we keep eating as we did prior to menopause we will naturally put on weight.

I read somewhere that estrogen is stored in fat cells
and that is why nature adds the fat to protect our hearts...
I cannot remember what publication this was or even if it is backed by scientific evidence...perhaps one of your readers knows more about this and can comment.

We must be proactive if we want to keep those extra pounds from piling up.
Mother who is 89, eats smaller portions and avoids cakes and pastries and walks for 20 minutes each afternoon.

My hypothyroid condition that results in a sluggish metabolism is an issue that affects my weight and a constant reminder that I need to take charge of my eating and exercise habits.

Weight has crept up on me while I was turning a blind eye...

I was much more successful when I was actively attending Weight Watcher meetings and counting my points.

So I am back to tracking my daily WW point allowance and amping up the walking. Many of you are joining me on this journey and I hope that you are starting this process with a positive realistic and optimistic attitude.
We can succeed if we put the effort into the project.
My goal is to lose about 1 pound each week...the first week we may see more weight loss but it usually slows a bit after the initial phase.

My morning indulgence is a cafe creme.

Espresso coffee and foamed skimmed milk.

Breakfast 

1/2 cup 1% cottage cheese and a cup of berries

Lunch is a salad with about 3 ounces of protein and a light dressing.

Dinner

3 ounces of lean protein and lots and lots of vegetables.

Daily brisk walks of about 45 minutes to an hour along the seafront

provide me with plenty of fresh air and movement.

The scenery is quite lovely 

so while I walk I soak in all the beauty and as a result I feel joyful.

If you are following along on this journey to improved health please feel free to leave a comment and share your thoughts.

How is your week going?

Have you had cravings?

Are you walking or working out?

Do you have any tips for the group?

My journey may be very different from yours...

happiness and contentment within each of us is very personal 

what works for one may not work for another.

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~

The weight loss journey begins...

After gaining 10 pounds over the course of the summer it is time for me to take action and get back on track. To achieve a 10 pound weight loss I will keep track of my daily food intake, track my weight watcher points and keep an activity journal.
Writing everything down makes me more accountable and in my experience has made my progress so much more successful.

Getting on the scale recording my weight and hopping on every few days to see how things are going also helps me be more mindful of how I am doing...monitoring my progress helps keep me motivated.

Before embarking on a regime it is important to rid the cupboards and fridge of anything that might derail my progress...no hidden stashes of chips, chocolates or cookies. We all know what foods we crave and must avoid as quite possibly they are loaded with calories and fats.

Next up the grocery store shopping keeping to the aisles at the perimeter of the store...the dairy, meat, seafood, produce sections are where I need to focus my attention by choosing fresh vegetables, fruits in season and lean proteins.

I use skim milk in my morning cafe creme as it foams better.
Eggs are a great source of protein and they are also very versatile.
I love a poached egg atop a pile of greens or an omelet with fresh herbs for lunch. Hard boiled eggs make a great snack if you are feeling hungry between meals.

Fresh fruit counts as zero points on the Weight Watchers program so I load up on bananas, apples, pineapples, oranges, peaches, plums and berries...
opting for fruits that are "in season."
I will eat several fruit servings each day.

One of my favourite breakfasts is a 1/2 cup of low fat yogurt or cottage cheese with sliced fresh fruit. My appetite is controlled better when I have protein with each meal...it keeps me satisfied until the next meal and rarely do I get hungry in between.

If am extra active and feel hunger pangs I will have a couple of tablespoons of hummus with carrots and celery sticks or a wedge of Laughing Cow Light cheese with an apple.

I avoid most breads and will opt for 2 slim slices of "Little Big Bread" if I want a sandwich. This bread is made with sprouted grains and made by the Silver Hills company.

Potatoes are my weakness so I try to limit my intake of them especially in the initial phase of my program.

Lean meat (not fried) or protein is limited to about a 3 ounce serving.
My dinner plate will be heavy on the veggies and lean on the protein portion.
A plate loaded with lots of luscious colourful veggies is satisfying and beautiful.

Green salads with sliced mushrooms, onions, radishes, tomatoes, cucumbers, and colourful peppers are an easy way to fill up as there is lots of chewing involved. The action of chewing sends a signal to the brain that one is sated and full.

Be careful not to load up on creamy dressings...simple vinaigrettes are best and if you like vinegar you might be able to skip the oil and just have a drizzle of balsamic vinegar on top.

No pop or sweet drinks will pass my lips...
I will opt for tea, coffee, and several bottles of Perrier each day.

I enjoy a glass of wine but find that it has "empty calories" so it can derail or slow down my reduction plan.
Perrier in a champagne flute or a glass with a wedge of lemon or lime is festive enough and guilt free...getting plenty of fluid really is important...aim for 2 litres every day.

If you are tempted to snack...keep your hands busy...read a book or call a friend to chat.
Knit, crochet, do some embroidery whatever helps calm your thoughts.
Go for a walk or work outside in the garden.

Exercise!
Yes I will be out pounding the pavement every day for at least 45-60 minutes.
Walking is free and easy to do...no gym fees, you can do it anytime that suits your schedule and it is much more fun when you walk with a friend.

If you do not have a good pair of supportive walking shoes invest in some right away. My former knee problems were linked to a pair of sneakers that had no real structure or support.

If you are motivated by looking good while walking perhaps you will want to buy a cheerful coloured jacket or pants...something that makes you feel energized and happy.

I wear black yoga style skinny knit capris and a tee top with a light jacket by Mondetta that I purchased from Costco...inexpensive but very neat and functional.

If you have never walked much before start with 15-20 minutes. Do this for a week and soon you'll be able to add increments of time and distance and you will feel so much better and the movement is also so good for our aging bones.

If you prefer to exercise at the gym or pool because of weather or personal reasons you can ask the staff for suggestions of which routines and classes that will suit your goal. Zumba is very popular here among ladies of a certain age!

So let's begin...our journey together.

Getting healthy, trimming a wee bit of body weight, toning up and doing it together...are you ready?

I welcome comments and tips as we move through this together.
Good luck.

Goals...

leaner, lighter, fitter, more energetic.

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~

Beauty and the Brow

It is International Woman's Day!

Today I am focusing on Beauty...
which truly is in the eye of the beholder.

"Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart."
                               ~ Khalil Gibran ~

The focus of today's post is the brow...

Personally I feel that make up should be used with a light touch to look like you, only better!
My routine is simple and quick and I prefer the "no make up look."

You may ask why do I bother?
In a nutshell, it makes me feel better about myself.

Powder foundation, a quick sweep of eye shadow, followed by mascara all by Jane Iredale.
Followed by light dusting with Bobbi Brown Bronzer to highlight my cheekbones.
This can all be done in about 5 minutes or less.

BTW ~ I no longer use a lash curler as I noticed too many of the lashes were falling out.

My eyebrows are thinner due to a thyroid condition and I have quite a few white hairs now
which makes them almost disappear.

Professional tinting at the Spa lasts about 6 weeks which covers the white and grey hairs.
Unfortunately no amount of dye will give the illusion of fullness and for that
I went to Sephora.

Bobbi Brown makes a brow pencil which is easy to use.

The soft formula allows for precise filling in of the areas that need a little fullness and definition.

It comes with a sharpener which is convenient to keep the tip sharp making it much easier to apply.

I also picked up my birthday bonus gift.

Marc Jacobs eye liner and a small lipstick.

I use an old mascara wand to brush my brows before applying Maybelline Brow Drama.

The brow drama is tinted and has a gel which keeps brows in place

then I use the Bobbi Brown brow pencil to fill in any gaps.

I do not tweeze my brows.

I use a small pair of scissors to clip any hairs that grow too long and to maintain their shape.

You can have this done at the Spa if you so desire.

The results of just these 3 products are quite dramatic...

brows "frame" the face.

If you have ever seen anyone who has shaved off their brows you will understand what I mean.

Have you noticed women that are wearing "too much" make up?

I wonder if they are trying to hide their age, ashamed perhaps that they are not youthful.

Too much make up can them look even older...

lighter formulas used sparingly are far more flattering.

Be comfortable in your own skin

rejoice 

you are a woman of a certain age

there is no shame in that

hold your head high

walk with confidence

embrace your years

you have earned respect

and you have wisdom.

Focus on healthy eating, drink lots of water, maintain a good skincare regime.

If your budget allows for it have a professional facial every month or so...

and please remember to SMILE!

A smile perks up the corners of the mouth and lightens up the face.

Celebrate being a woman today!

~ Be Well and Be Kind ~